By Dr
Jawanza Kunjufu
Sunday, June 16, 2013.
I believe one of the
greatest problems facing the Black community is fatherlessness. If you at look
at problems such as: incarceration, drug addiction, gangs, teen pregnancy, dropping
out, crime, suspension, retention, and special education, the common cause was fatherlessness.
Every child needs a father and no one needs him more than Black boys. Only 28%
of Black youth have their fathers in the home. In 1920, it was 90% and in 1960it
was 80%. Neither slavery nor northern migration created Black fatherlessness. It
is very difficult proposing to your future wife and raising a family when you
are unemployed.
In 1920, America needed Black men to work farms. In
1960, America needed Black men to work in factories. The million dollar
question today is what does America need from Black men? Is the answer prisons?
Could America operate prisons without Black men who are almost 50% of their
population? The billion dollar question we must ask ourselves is what can we do
to put Black men back to work? How can a people earn over $900 billion and have
almost half its men unemployed? The answer is when the Black community only
spends 3% of its income with Black businesses.
While the economy changed for all men, 89% of Asian
children, 75% of White children and 59% of Hispanic children have their fathers
in the home. Could it be the above communities spend more than 3 percent of
their income with their businesses? African Americans could almost eliminate
their unemployment rate if they simply spent 10 percent of their income with
Black businesses.
How do we explain two Black fathers who are both laid off from the same company
with two completely different reactions? The first father allows society to determine
his manhood, husbandry and fatherhood. He believes if he is unemployed he is worthless.
Therefore, he drinks and smokes more, abuses his family and sells drugs. The second
father derives his worth from God. He believes he will always be the husband
and father regardless of his employment status. While looking for work, he
cleans the house, makes dinner and checks homework. He decides to enroll in
college and sell newspapers. The first father is now emotionally separated from
his children and is incarcerated. The second father is now closer to his
family, better educated and now has a job with the newspaper.
We have six types of fathers.
First, we have sperm donors who make babies, but do
not raise them. We could solve most of our problems tonight if we could rid
ourselves of sperm donors.
Next, we have no show daddies. They promise their
child they will pick them up and don't show. We cannot blame this on racism.
Third, are ice cream daddies. They feel guilty
because they do not spend time with their child. Therefore, they buy their
child whatever they want.
Next, are the divorced dads. They would like to do
more for their child, but their ex prevents this from happening.
Next, are step -fathers. I hate this term, these
men check homework, pay bills and nurture their children, but the sperm donor
is called father.
Last, are fathers who have never left their
children and either stayed with their mate or she encourages his involvement after
the divorce. Real fathers never divorce their children!
We encourage every man to be a responsible father. There has never been a time
when we did not need our fathers like today. We salute you dad, Happy Father's
Day this Sunday!