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How To Define Your Own Style, Without Apology

By Features Desk

Thursday, September 10, 2020.

Defining your own style, without apology, can sometimes feel like a revolutionary act. But why should it? Should you feel bad about expressing yourself? If it doesn’t cause harm to yourself or others, shouldn’t you be able to wear exactly that which you want? Of course, we cannot stroll the streets nude, but that’s not ‘style’ in the first place.

Many people can often find themselves uneasy when thinking about showing their style off, or understanding how to make these decisions. It’s not always easy to define who you are through clothing, and sometimes, you have to make mistakes to know what you actually enjoy wearing. The important principle is to have fun! Our clothes are only worn for a few days at an absolute push before we change them, and so this is something you can always reinvent, reinvest in, and define anew.

But style isn’t always about clothes. It’s not uncommon for people entering their mature years to get their first tattoo, as they may have always felt scared by it beforehand. But with all this in mind, how can you define your own style if you feel a little worried about doing so? That’s a good question, and one we deign to answer in the following words:

Try New Implements

Try new implements to wear from time to time. This could take the form of a new accessory, or it could be a something more permanent or tangible that you’ve wanted for some time. For instance, even if you’re older and wish for a new tattoo or piercing, shouldn’t you be able to get one? And if not, what arbitrary rules are you following? It’s worth asking yourself these questions, because it might be that you uncover something personal you’ve wished for, for a long time.

This ‘new implement’ could simply be hiring a stylist able to more personally understand what you want and what would look good for you. We often find interest in shows such as ‘Queer Eye,’ but the truth is that you can have that experience yourself. As long as you don’t tokenize the stylist and listen to what they have to say (and express your own tastes and needs without apology), you may just come to find something you enjoy. That can be the basis of good style, enjoying what you wear and looking good in it.

Why do catwalk models always look amazing even when wearing experimental garments? It’s often because they walk with pride, they have a confident strut, and they never apologize for what they’re wearing. Sure, they’re super attractive, but that doesn’t matter as much as you think it does. It could be that a sassy walk is doing the most of it. It could be the fact that we know they know they look good. These attitudes can help decide your style as much as anything else - and we recommend you try them.

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Don’t Be Afraid To Take Risks

Don’t be afraid to take the risks you want to make. For instance, perhaps you haven’t shown off your shoulders in some time, but you want to for an end-of-summer event you’re invited to. Why not just try it? Odds are you’ll receive compliments, and if you don’t, that’s fine too, you’ve already won. It could just be that you realise this kind of clothing isn’t for you, and that’s fine too. You’ll never know if you don’t try it. 

Risks can also involve deciding to head to a fashion show, or to learn more about fashion, or to head to a store you don’t really visit, or to plan your outfit for a special event with a friend in tow. Fashion isn’t a fixed ruleset, aside from where you should wear certain garments. You can experiment and have fun with it, even if colors clash, even if patterns don’t fit, and even if you’ve never experienced this kind of clothing creativity before. It’s a good show.

Find Accessories That Work For You

Finding accessories that work for you can be a great means of completing an outfit, or further expressing your style. This can work in the form of jewelry, hats, bags, and other additions. Sometimes you can find more creative freedom in these accessories, which can actually be regular fixtures you wear most often between outfits. For instance, glasses that look like Gandhi and Elton John are all the rage at the moment, as they strike a perfect balance between ‘educated’ and ‘cute.’ 

Then again, perhaps you prefer more thick-framed lenses, and this may work for you as well. What matters is not making yourself work for your accessories, but making your accessories work for you. Over time they become part of your personality, and part of your self-respect. This can be a great place to begin, because these options are often affordable and comfortable, easy to size, and easy to wear. 

Find Like-Minded People, Too!

Fashion is social. We do wear it for ourselves, but also for other people. This means that styling yourself among like-minded people can be an adventure, because they will help fill in the gaps your blind spots create, and vice versa. That can be comforting when you’re not sure how to express yourself next, or what option is the most appealing for you. Furthermore, it will help you go out and feel supported by those near you ,especially if you’re trying something new for the first time.

Does this mean you have to join a ‘clique?’ Of course not. We can often see groups of people bound together by their fashion choices and music taste, but simply having a good interest in fashion can help you meet people more like yourself. That way, you can define your own style with enthusiasm.

With this advice, we hope you can more easily define your own stylistic approach without having to apologize for it. Because why should you apologize?

How To Define Your Own Style, Without Apology

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